Ask Keli continues with a message I received out of Anaheim, CA. She writes….
“Hi! My name is Cassie and my mom actually sent me an article today about how you lost you weight. I’m currently 20 years old and I’ve been having weight issues since I was in 4th grade. By the time I was in 8th grade I was 5’2 and weighed 180 pounds. I used to get bullied and made fun of. I played soccer for 6 years and was the “fat” one. It made me so insecure that I used to layer myself in clothing. I still battle my weight to this day. There’re so many things I want to do with performing, and dance, and I don’t want to be that cow in a leotard. And I’ve never had a boyfriend or have been asked out, so I’m like what’s wrong with me? My fat is in the way of living my life, and I need help. I cry myself to sleep too many times to count and I don’t want to the to look in the mirror every day. So if you can give me some advice that would be awesome! Thanks!” -Cassie
There were so many ways I thought about answering this question. From loving yourself to creating confidence or even overall health tips. However, I figured since Cassie was able to be so open about where she was then I should be as well. I was once Cassie; I would sit on sidelines hoping that my dreams of a life other than the “fat girl” would soon pass by, and I could become the leading lady of my story. Growing up, I was never the pretty one, or the one who was asked to the school dance and the top of popularity charts was not even in sight. In fact, I cringed at the thought of anyone finding the school photo of me above. Not simply because of the goofy grin and less than stellar hair but really it was because that time was so painful for me. If you would have said the girl on the left was 9 days away from competing in Miss Texas, most people would say you are crazy. However, she absolutely is! It was that determined spirit that was instilled in me then that has given me the ability to have the passion and drive to pursue my dreams now.
Never overlook where you come from because it deserves the credit for where you are today.
The advice that I would give is the same I gave to myself when I decided that something had to change:
- Take back your definition- Your weight does not define you. Yes, it is important to over health and well being but the size of your jeans is not a number to measure the value of who you are as a person. How do you want to be defined?
- Take action NOW- If you don’t like where you currently are then make an active, conscious movement toward where you want to be today. For example, if you want to be healthier then start by drinking more water and go for a walk after dinner. This will at least tell your brain that I am actively trying to overcome this. Focus on the solution rather the problems you have.
- Taking the lead- I believe each of us has to be the protagonist in our lives. Many times we can take comfort in our place on the sidelines but what if we took back our story and rewrote it. What does your ideal leading lady look like?